Father's Homilies

Homily for 32nd Sunday in Ordinary Time – Cycle A

posted Nov 12, 2017, 2:21 PM by Mary Tocimak

            To me it is fairly obvious that today's Gospel message is all about us being vigilant and being prepared for the second coming of Christ. We do not know when our time on earth will be completed and we need to always be prepared for that date. In the Gospel those that are prepared are welcome into the banquet and those that are not are left out in the cold of the night. Pretty obvious isn't it?

            However, if we look deeper at this passage, there may be some other lessons that might be helpful to us.  The Bridegroom represents Christ and he is headed off to be united with his new bride.  At the time of Christ, marriages were prearranged so when he leaves, he goes to the house of the bride and finalizes all the arrangements for the marriage with the father of the bride.  This may take some time so that is why the 10 virgins are not sure when he will be returning.  The ten virgins are to light the way to the wedding banquet for the wedding party.  They are the welcoming party to kickoff the seven days of the wedding celebration.  As we hear in the Gospel, each virgin starts off with a lit torch to light the way when the wedding party returns.  However, only 5 bring enough oil to keep their lamps lit.  The other 5 run out of oil and need to leave and purchase more. 

            So what is Jesus trying to tell us in this story, other than the obvious lesson about being prepared?  First, the fire represents our faith.  It is given to us when we are baptized as a gift from God.  The oil represents the grace we receive from God when we are faithful to his will in our own lives; be doing acts of charity, receiving the sacraments, praying, loving God and loving our neighbor, etc. As long as we continue to do the will of God, he will continue to shower us with his grace.  This grace allows us to keep our flame of faith burning for all others to see.  The 5 wise virgins were doing the will of God and therefore, had enough oil to sustain them.  Unfortunately, the 5 foolish virgins had the same faith, however, chose not to do the will of God and used their gifts selfishly.  They stored up earthly treasures and not heavenly treasures.  Therefore, they did not have any grace to sustain their flame of faith.  One question that has always bothered me is why didn’t the wise virgins share their oil.  It appears to me that they were being selfish.  In reality, the arrival of the bridegroom signifies the second coming of Christ on judgment day.  On that day, we will all come before God and we will not have any opportunity to do anything more to gain favor with him, and we will not be able to help anyone else.  Our time on earth will be over and our lives will be judged accordingly.  That is why the 5 wise virgins could not help the 5 foolish virgins. 

            So what is the real moral of the story?  Sure, we must be prepared for the coming of Christ.  But how are we to prepare?  We need to put our faith into action.  We must pray, receive the sacraments, do charitable works and do the will of God in our lives, and not our own will.  In this way, we will store up heavenly treasure and not earthy treasures that will be gone when we die.  As the holidays come upon us, we will have many opportunities to live out our faith by going to confession, giving to the needy, and being the light of Christ for others to see.  In this way, we will never run out of the oil of God’s grace.  In this way, when Christ the bridegroom comes, he will see our flame of faith burning brightly and welcome us into the heavenly banquet.

Homily for 31st Sunday in Ordinary Time

posted Nov 4, 2017, 10:28 AM by Mary Tocimak

As a newly ordained priest and being a man of mature faith, a nice way of stating that I am an older man, today's readings are a great reminder to me of what my role is to be as a priest.  Today’s readings gave me an opportunity to examine where I am in my priesthood and an opportunity to examine my heart to see what I need to do to improve. However one question I am often asked is, don't you wish you could have been ordained many years ago? I can honestly say that many years ago I would not have been a very good priest. God called me to the priesthood at just the right time in my life. Let me explain in more detail. From the early 70’s to 2002 I was in a relationship with my wife Kimberly and trying to make a living as a sales person.  My career as a sales person got off to a very slow start. When I was first starting out in sales, I would find a prospect and as quickly as possible, I would try to determine how big a sale I could make and then calculate my commission. My motivation was on how much money I would make on the sale rather than on the customers needs and trying to solve their problems. The same could be said of the early years of my marriage. I was happy in my marriage as long as my needs were being met. As my sales career and my marriage faltered, I realized that I had to change my attitude if I wanted to save these aspects of my life. I had to put the needs of my customers ahead of my needs and I had to put the needs of my wife ahead of my own. In other words I had to be a servant to them rather than them serving me.

            As time went on I also came to understand that I am an alcoholic. One of the primary symptoms of alcoholism is self-centeredness. As an alcoholic you believe that the world revolves around you and your needs. God knew that I needed to be sober for an extended period of time so that my priorities in life would be changed from self-serving to being a servant to others. God knew that if I was ordained years ago I would not be a very good priest. As outlined in today's readings as I stand before you I have tried to put God ahead of everything in my life and have tried to serve you, the people of God.  I still have a long way to go in my life in my efforts to truly be a humble servant of the Lord and his people.  I need to spend more time in prayer especially quiet prayer in front of the Blessed Sacrament. I also need to do a better job of humbly serving you people.  I want to do more to invite the people that have left the church to come back. I want to help the poor and marginalized and I want to especially help all of you grow closer to Christ in a more personal way.

            So what have I learned? That I find a great sense of peace and tranquility in my life when I spend some quiet time in conversations with God. This is especially true when I am the busiest and when I don't think I can make time to be quiet and to listen to God talking to me.  The next thing is that being a servant to others is not something you do on occasion but rather is a way of life. Nothing makes me happier than helping others. This could be in counseling, in teaching the youth, giving golf lessons at the driving range, in preaching, or in visiting people in the nursing homes and hospitals, I learned that serving others is an attitude;  a way of going through life. However it has taken me quite some time to make this a reality in my life.

            Where are you in your life? Is God the highest priority and Jesus your role model? Do you have an attitude of serving others or having others serve you? We are all members of the priesthood of Christ's Church and called to love God and love our neighbor. This is not something we are called to do on an occasional basis, on Sundays for an hour or so but as a way of life. I used these readings as a way to examine my life as a priest and although I still have a long way to go I feel I am on the right track. Are you? I encourage you to take some time to examine your lives to see where loving God and serving others is on your priority list in your life.


Homily for 19th Sunday in Ordinary Time- Jesus Walks on the Water

posted Aug 17, 2017, 1:06 PM by Mary Tocimak


            Today, we hear the story of Peter and Jesus walking on the water.  However, before I can explain this in more detail, After Jesus fed the 5,000, he wanted some quiet time to mourn the loss of his cousin St. John the Baptist. He told his disciples to get in the boat and go to the other side of the Sea of Galilee and he would meet them there.  This is important to note because Jesus sent them on a journey but told them He would meet them on the other side, at their destination.  He didn’t say that there would not be storms along the way or that the journey would be easy, just that they would arrive safely. 

            Now the boat represents the Church and the people inside the boat are all of us.  We are on this spiritual journey together and we all encounter storms on this journey.  Those storms are temptations to sin.  So how did the Disciples have the storms calmed?  They invited Jesus into the boat and he calmed the storm.  Please note that they couldn’t calm the storm on their own.  They had to invite Jesus into the storm of their lives and he took care of the storm. Now, in the  middle of the storm, he asks Peter to join him on the water.  Once Peter leaves the safety of the boat, he is able to walk on the water as long as he focuses on Jesus and not the storm.  However, Peter loses his focus on Jesus and turns his attention on the storm rather than Jesus.  Now, I can talk about all the temporal storms we have in our lives, such as financial difficulties, or relationship issues, or illnesses or any other of problems that are of a temporal nature.  Last week, I talked about trusting in Jesus to help you with these issues and even gave you an example of how that works earlier.  Now I want to focus on the Spiritual storms in our lives, the temptations that come our way.  It may be greed, or lust, envy, anger, swearing gossiping etc.  Whatever the spiritual storms you have in your life, you need to call upon Jesus to calm that storm and if you sink like Peter did because the storm overwhelmed you and you sinned, you can reach out and take Jesus’ hand and ask him for forgiveness in the sacrament of reconciliation.  In this way, you know that you to will reach the other side on your spiritual journey, the journey to heaven and ever lasting life with God, and all the angels and saints.  This week, we will all be on a spiritual journey together.  Once we encounter a storm, invite Jesus into the boat and have him calm that storm so you can make safely to the other side as He promised you would. 

Common Phrases that have Biblical Origin

posted Aug 8, 2017, 11:27 AM by Mary Tocimak

1. Bite the Dust
Psalms 72:9, “They that dwell in the wilderness shall bow before him;
and his enemies shall lick the dust.” (KJV)

2. The Blind Leading the Blind
Matthew 15:13-14, “Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind.
And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.”

3. By the Skin of Your Teeth
Job 19:20. The Geneva Bible translated the Hebrew Literally which
read, “I have escaped with the skin of my teeth.”

4. Broken Heart
Psalms 34:18, “The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart;
and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit” (KJV).

5. Can a Leopard Change his spots?
Jeremiah 13:23 (KJV), “Can the Ethiopian change his skin, or the
leopard his spots? then may ye also do good, that are accustomed to
do evil.”

6. Cast the First Stone
John 8:7, “And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to
them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a
stone at her.”

7. Drop in a Bucket
Isaiah 40:15 declaring God’s sovereignty and power over the nations,
“Behold, the nations are as a drop of a bucket, and are counted as the
small dust of the balance: behold, he takes up the isles as fine dust”

8. Eat, Drink, and Be Merry
Ecclesiastes 8:15, “because a man hath no better thing under the sun,
than to eat, and to drink, and to be merry: for that shall abide with him
of his labour the days of his life, which God giveth him under the sun.”

9. Eye for Eye, Tooth for Tooth
Matthew 5:38, “Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an
eye, and a tooth for a tooth.”

10. Fall From Grace
Galatians 5:4, “Christ is become of no effect unto you, whosoever of
you are justified by the law; ye are fallen from grace.”

11. Fly in the Ointment
Ecclesiastes 10:1 (KJV), “”Dead flies cause the ointment of the
apothecary to send forth a stinking savour: so doth a little folly him
that is in reputation for wisdom and honour.””

12. For Everything there is a Season
Ecclesiastes 3. Ecclesiastes 3 is also the motivation for the song “Turn!
Turn! Turn!” by the Byrds.

13. Forbidden Fruit
Genesis 3:3 when Adam and Eve were commanded not to eat from the
tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. “But of the fruit of the tree
which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of
it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.”

14. Go the extra mile
Matthew 5:41 that says, “And whosoever shall compel thee to go a
mile, go with him twain” (KJV).

15. Good Samaritan
Luke 10:30-37, the Parable of the Good Samaritan.

16. He who lives by the sword, dies by the sword
Matthew 26:52, “Then said Jesus unto him, Put up again thy sword
into his place: for all they that take the sword shall perish with the

17. How the Mighty have Fallen
1 Samuel 1:19, “The beauty of Israel is slain upon thy high places: how
are the mighty fallen!”

18. Let there Be Light
Genesis 1’s creation account.

19. The Love of Money is the Root of All Evil
1 Timothy 6:10 and is actually usually misquoted. Here is the ESV
translation, “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is
through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith
and pierced themselves with many pangs.”

20. Nothing but skin and bones
Job 19:19-20, “All my intimate friends detest me; those I love have
turned against me. I am nothing but skin and bones.

21. The Powers that Be
Romans 13:11 (KJV), “Let every soul be subject unto the higher
powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are
ordained of God.”

22. Pride comes before a fall
Proverbs 16:18, “Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit
before a fall.” (KJV)

23. Put words in one’s mouth from
2 Samuel 14:3, “And come to the king, and speak on this manner unto
him. So Joab put the words in her mouth.”

24. Rise and shine is
Isaiah 60:1, “Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the
LORD rises upon you.”

25. The Root of the Matter
Job 19:28 (KJV), “But ye should say, Why persecute we him, seeing the
Root of the matter is found in me?”

26. Scapegoat
Old Testament Law (Leviticus 16:9-10 specifically) where a goat is
chosen by lot to be sent into the desert to make atonement for sin.

27. See eye to eye
Isaiah 52:8 (KJV), “Thy watchmen shall lift up the voice; with the voice
together shall they sing: for they shall see eye to eye, when the LORD
shall bring again Zion.”

28. Sign of the times
Matthew 16:3 (KJV), “And in the morning, It will be foul weather
today: for the sky is red and lowering. O ye hypocrites, ye can discern
the face of the sky; but can ye not discern the signs of the times?”

29. Straight and Narrow
Matthew 7:14, “But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to
life, and only a few find it.”

30. Twinkling of an Eye
1 Corinthians 15:52, “In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the
last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised
incorruptible, and we shall be changed.”

31. There’s nothing new under the sun
The book of Ecclesiastes. Ecclesiastes 1:9 (KJV) says, “The thing that
hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that
which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun.”

32. Wash your hands of the matter
Matthew 27:24 (KJV), “When Pilate saw that he could prevail nothing,
but that rather a tumult was made, he took water, and washed his
hands before the multitude, saying, I am innocent of the blood of this
just person: see ye to it.”

33. Weighed in the balance
Job 31:6, “Let me be weighed in an even balance that God may know
mine integrity.”

34. Wit’s End
Psalm 107:27 (KJV), “They reel to and fro, and stagger like a drunken
man, and are at their wits’ end.” And the Psalm does not refer to the
Whit’s End with the Imagination Station.

35. Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing
Matthew 7:15 (KJV), “Beware of false prophets, which come to you in
sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.”

36. Writings on the Wall
Daniel 5. “The writing is on the wall” is now a popular idiom for
“something bad is about to happen”.

Homily for 14th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Cycle A

posted Jul 11, 2017, 2:39 PM by Mary Tocimak

          Earlier this week, we celebrated Independence Day, the birth of our nation and our independence from England.  Isn’t being independent one of our ideals as citizens? Aren’t we taught at an early age to grow up and to deal with things on our own? To pull up our bootstraps and take care of things? Aren’t some of our heroes guys like John Wayne, the Marlboro man, the Lone Ranger, Amelia Earhart, people that did things on their own?  I think you get my point.  To me, that is why today’s Gospel can be difficult for us adults.  Children still are dependent on their parents and teachers, etc, to help them to grow and develop.  However, once we get married, we pride ourselves on making it on our own; to fulfill the American dream.

            Yet, in today’s Gospel, Jesus tells us to take his yoke upon ourselves.  What does he mean by this well known phrase?  Well a yoke is a large wooden beam with holes cut out so that the beam can be attached to farm animals to allow the master or farmer to control their direction.  The yoke prevents either animal from wandering off on their own.  Because of the yoke, they are forced to work together for a common goal, the work of the farmer. 

            So who is the farmer?  It is God the Father and by being attached to Jesus in the yoke, we work together with Jesus to do the will of the Father.  We can’t wander off on our own and to get into trouble or be too independent.  Like I mentioned earlier, we Americans appreciate our independence and being dependent on somebody else, like when we were children can be viewed as a weakness.  However, Jesus tells us that we need to be like children in our relationship with him; to be dependent on him for direction and guidance.  I know that n my own life that when I tried to do things on my own, that is when I got into the most trouble.  When my pride was raging in full force, I was too blind to see the error of my thinking and this is what led me into my sins of drinking, carousing, and self-centered-ness. 

            So what are some of the burdens that we have in our lives that we can turn over to Jesus?  What about all the things we worry about?  The weather, our health, the health of our loved ones, our finances, whether relatives return to church, and so many others.  Our worrying shows that we are concerned, yet does worrying solve any of our problems?  No.  Working with and trusting Jesus can help ease the burden.   For example, if we are worried about health issues, have we been doing everything the doctor has told us to do? Have we invited someone that has been away from the church to attend one of the lunches here at the parish?  Have we called our loved ones that may be lonely or ill and told them that we are concerned about them?  These may not eliminate or solve all the problems we face, however, they do give us reassurance that Jesus and others are here to help us.  All we need to do is swallow our pride and ask for help. 

            This week, examine your heart to see what is burdening you in your life and turn this over to Jesus.  He is here to help us if we just ask.  As he tells us, his yoke is easy and his burden is light, if we are willing to accept his help.


Paper on Distribution of the Holy Eucharist at Mass; Submitted by John Gibbons; November 19, 2009

posted Jun 1, 2017, 12:15 PM by Mary Tocimak

            Pastor A judged that a couple that has been living together out of wedlock were deemed to be in a state of grave sin and denied them the Holy Eucharist at Mass one Sunday. Furious over the embarrassment that Pastor A caused, they decided to leave the parish and joined the neighboring parish where Pastor B welcomed them into the parish and served them communion every Sunday. When Pastor A finds out about what has transpired, he is amazed and calls the Bishop.

            The bishop listened to the complaint and then asked Pastor A: “Would you consider yourself a conscientious and informed Pastor?

            Pastor A replied: “Well yes, bishop.”

            The bishop then responded with another question; “Would you consider Pastor B a conscientious and informed Pastor?”

            Surprised at the question, Pastor A reluctantly admits, “Well, yes, bishop.”

            The bishop simply responded: “Thanks for Calling.”[1]

            The bishop saw both men as good priests, one stressing fidelity and firmness, and the other reflecting flexibility and gentleness. This short story illustrates the issue I am going to discuss in this paper, the distribution of Holy Communion at a Roman Catholic Liturgy. I will discuss the Canon Laws pertaining to this issue as well as other teachings on the subject. Due to the short length of this paper, I will not be addressing the specifics of Eucharistic Distribution in the Eastern Orthodox Rite. In the end, the decision will be yours to make, to serve the couple or not.

             What are the current Catholic Guidelines for the Reception of Communion in a Catholic Parish?

            One of my original goals in writing this paper was to attempt to write a pastoral letter on the distribution of Communion to be used by fellow members of the Canon Law Class, as well as my local parish, St. Joseph in Waukesha. As I explored this possibility with my pastor and other priests within the Archdiocese of Milwaukee, they suggested that I call Barbara Anne Cusack at the Chancery office. After a brief yet informative conversation, I was told that a pastoral letter like the one I wanted to write was already written in the form of the 1996 US Bishops Guidelines for the reception of communion. Any other document on the subject would not replace these guidelines.

            The guidelines for the receipt of Communion were issued on November 14, 1996, by the National Conference of Catholic Bishops. The guidelines are listed in Appendix 1 of this paper. The guidelines, which are to be included in missalettes and other participation aids published in the United States, seek to remind all those who may attend Catholic liturgies of the present discipline of the Church with regard to the sharing of Eucharistic communion.

            In summary, the guidelines encourages Catholics to receive Communion, provided they are properly disposed to receive the sacrament. A person should not be conscious of being in a state of grave sin. In regard to our fellow Christians, Eucharist sharing, unless exceptional circumstances exist, is not permitted, based upon canon 844.4. It is hoped that one day, the divisions that separate our churches are lessened and eventually disappear. Also, non-Christians are not permitted to receive the Blessed Sacrament, yet all are encouraged to pray for the unity of the various denominations and religions.

            According to Canon 213 – The Christian faithful have the right to receive the spiritual goods of the Church, especially the word of God and the Sacraments. Although Canon 213 applies primarily to the Christian faithful in full communion with the Catholic Church, Canon 844, sections 3&4 extends the reception of communion to other Christians who do not share in the full communion with the Catholic Church under certain restrictions. For example, Canon 844.4 states that a Catholic minister can administer the sacrament of the Holy Eucharist to other Christians, not in full communion with the Catholic Church, who cannot approach a minister of their own accord, provided that they manifest Catholic faith with respect to the Eucharist, and are properly disposed. The intent of this canon is to be able to provide the Eucharist to those Christians in serious need, such as in danger of death, and who are unable to go to their preferred minister, and it be a voluntary act on their part, and have a manifestation of the Catholic Faith, and be in the proper disposition to receive the sacrament. This is quite a list of conditions to be met before a Non-Catholic can receive Communion. Finally, Canon 915 states that those who have been excommunicated or interdicted for persevering in manifest grave sin are not to be admitted to Holy Communion. Minister of the Eucharist must be certain that the person has committed the grave sin, and that the sinner is obstinately persevering in this sinful state, and that the sin is publically known. An example of this would be an abortionist, or a gangster.

            In reviewing these canon laws and the guidelines for the reception of Holy Communion issued by the bishops, it is fairly obvious that Pastor A had a right to deny the couple Holy Communion at the mass. He did not want them to incur any additional sin because, in his judgment, they were in a state of grave sin, and their reception of the Eucharist would have compounded the sin. Thus, he was trying to avoid the sin of scandal by denying them the Eucharist. By serving them, he could be leading them into even more grave sin. In his mind, he was not putting a fence around the altar to safeguard the Eucharist, but rather, he was protecting them from incurring additional sins by receiving communion if they were, in fact, in a state of serious sin. In his action of denial, he was being very pastoral.

What about Pastor B, is he acting pastorally in serving them communion?

I want to now discuss the other option, that of serving Holy Communion to the couple living together. Should Pastor B have served them? What would Jesus do if he were the celebrant of the mass or a Eucharistic Minister? What about the sin of scandal for serving them?

The following are some reasons why I feel Pastor B is acting pastorally in serving the couple communion:

1)  The Last Supper with Judas

What if Jesus were a Celebrant at a Sunday liturgy and this couple came forward to receive communion? Do you really think he would deny them the same body and blood he gave to his disciples, even Judas? If you read the Last Supper account in Matthew’s Gospel, Jesus institutes the Sacrament of the Holy Eucharist with Judas, his betrayer at the table. He shared his body and blood with someone that had already agreed to betray him. If this is not a person in grave sin, then I have a hard time believing anyone would be in a more sinful state than Judas at the time of his reception of the Eucharist from Christ himself.

2)  The Catholic Church should not use the Eucharist as a tool to lord over the people, it is a gift from God.

As Baptized Christians, we recognize each other as children of God. The Catholic Church looks at degrees of belonging rather than treating everyone equally. To confirm this, the document, Communio notion, makes this clear by stating that every baptized person is “at home” in their particular Church. Is not the Liturgy an act of the whole Church of Christ, and not just the Catholic Church? As the Catholic Catechism clearly states, are not all Baptized Christians members of the communion of saints? Although the celebrant may perform the consecration of the host and the wine into the Body and Blood of Christ, as an agent of Christ and The Holy Spirit, should it not be distributed to this same communion of saints here on earth?

3)  The Disciples did not know what the Eucharist was before they received it, why should the Church make the people know and believe before they receive?

The Catholic Church believes that in order to receive the Holy Eucharist, you need to be educated in what the Eucharist represents and be educated in the faith and beliefs of the Catholic Church. This is contrary to what happened at the Last Supper. At that time, Jesus blessed the bread and wine, and gave it to his disciples and told them to eat and drink,” This is my body and this is my blood.” He did the Catechesis after they had received this banquet, not before. Why can’t the Church follow the example of Christ and allow those that truly believe in the presence of Christ in the Holy Eucharist to receive this precious gift while they are on their journey? To me, it seems the Eucharist is held out as some sort of reward for making the journey of faith instead of the catechumens being apprentices in training. The apprentices still need guidance, but should participate in the acts done by the mentor.

4)  By serving the couple, you will have a chance to discuss their lifestyle with them in hopes of bringing them back into a state of grace, if you refuse them, you will lose them.

Failing to share the Eucharist with this couple would not only bring them embarrassment and shame in the short term, but would cause permanent damage to their relationship with that parish at a minimum and more likely with the Catholic Church. Most pastors I have talked to about this topic will serve them communion, and then, at a later date, discuss with them their life situation and try to educate them on the issues involved. By serving them, he is showing his willingness to be pastoral and allows an open door for further discussion, rather than slamming the door in their face by denying them the Eucharist.

5)  Canon 1752 – everything is to be done for the salvation of souls

As we have discussed many time in class, the salvation of souls is the supreme law in the Church. Yet, this is not a wild card to allow us to disregard the previous 1751 canon laws. It is to be used as a guide in deciding between two courses of action. The first pastor in my story believed that he was trying to save the souls of the couple by denying them the communion because, in his judgment, they were not properly disposed to receive the Blessed Sacrament. The second pastor did not judge them in the same way and believed that serving them communion would be the best thing for their salvation. Each entailed making a judgment. And each may be right in their decision. That is why their bishop felt both acted prudently.

6)  Who are we, as ministers, to judge who is worthy of receiving communion.

In making the decision to serve or not to serve, each pastor had to decide what was in the hearts of the couple. Were they in a state of grave sin or not? How can any human really know? They can’t. Only God knows what is in a person’s heart and soul. We are condemned by Christ in several Gospel passages for trying to be judgmental when only God is called to be the judge. Yet, the minister is subject to the sin of scandal or at least the appearance of scandal by others if he willingly serves communion to those that most feel are in a state of grave sin. This is where the pastor must educate the faithful on this very topic. He is tasked to catechize the faithful about not being the same judge that only God can be. This is best summed up in Psalm 139:1-2, 6: “ O Lord, you have probed me and know me; you know when I sit and when I stand; you understand my thoughts from afar; Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; to lofty for me to attain.”


7)  Divine Law supersedes Church law

In reviewing this case, I have reviewed both sides of the issue, and it appears that one argument, to serve the couple, is based upon Scripture and the teachings and actions of Christ. The other argument is based upon the directives of the Magisterium and Tradition. Even though all three are the pillars of our faith and beliefs as Catholics, the priority or default in making decisions of this type are the Scriptures. It is there I find consolation in being pastoral in my decision making. Hopefully, when I get to the pearly gates of Heaven, I will have to answer to Jesus for my actions, and not to the Magisterium.

8)  Guidance from Experienced Church Leaders

So what do experience and far more learned men in our Church recommend in making this decision? Pope John Paul II urged us to be compassionate through which the pastoral minister ever seeks to offer, as far as possible, the path of return to God and of reconciliation, to be careful not to bend the bruised reed, or to quench the dimly burning wick.[2] Father Andrew Greeley, diocesan priest and noted author, urges pastoral ministers to invite, charm, and enchant the laity as they approach the sacraments instead of imposing rules and regulations creating obstacles and demanding compliance.[3]David Gibson, longtime employee of Vatican Radio, and regular traveler with Pope John Paul II, observes that life as a Christian community is always a tug-of-war between love and belief, between offering the limitless clemency of Christ, and upholding the moral law that makes a community truly Christian. It is never easy; in fact, it is usually impossible. It is an ambiguity that the credible believer acknowledges in himself, and one that he allows for in others by his actions, words, and by the mercy of God.[4]



            Much progress has been made in the area of Eucharistic sharing since before Vatican II. First, the guidelines issued by the bishops are norms. They are presented in a manner that try to make the instruction clear. Yet they leave quite a bit of room for pastoral interpretation that  pastors can apply in their specific parishes. When I tried to create a written document, I realized that no canon lawyer in the US would approve any major change to these Bishops’ guidelines. They were issued by the bishops and to change them would entail getting a bishop to approve them. This would not be likely. Canon lawyer John Huels says that the current laws can be interpreted broadly or strictly. Specifically, the portion of the law that permits Eucharistic sharing in special cases may be interpreted broadly. In doing so, we extend the mercy and kindness of God.

            Another canon lawyer, Andrew Greeley, feels the burden is not on the minister of communion but rather on the person receiving communion. The ban on receiving communion is a church law and not divine law, and it should be up to God to deal with those “unworthy or not properly disposed” to receive communion. Only God knows truly what is in a person’s heart and their true faith and beliefs. Therefore, I will be inclined to serve the couple communion, and then sit down and discuss with them the teachings of the Church. If they come forward after this discussion, I hope and pray that they come with a pure heart. If not, I pray that the mercy of God be upon them.


  ________________, New Commentary on the Code of Canon Law, Edited by John P. Beal,

            James A. Coriden, Tomas J. Green, New York, NY, Paulist Press, 2000.


Champlin, Rev. Joseph M., Firm but Kind and Gentle- A Practical Handbook for Pastoral             Ministry, Staten Island, NY, Society of St. Paul, 2007.


VanderWilt, Jeffrey, Communion with Non-Catholic Christians – Risks, Challenges, and             Opportunities, Collegeville, MN, The Liturgical Press, 2003



Homily for Ascension Thursday

posted Jun 1, 2017, 12:14 PM by Mary Tocimak

            How many of you either own a dog or have owned a dog?  I have had the privilege of owning four dogs in my lifetime.  I have also owned a couple of cats and no offense to cats, I prefer dogs to cats.  Unfortunately, if you have never owned a dog, my homily today may not make much sense, but try your best to follow along.  My theme today is I hope to love God and to trust God as much as my dog loved and trusted me, its owner and care giver.

            My first dog was a beagle named Snoopy.  I only hope that I love and trust God as much as Snoopy loved and trusted me.  For example, Snoopy didn’t care when I came home from work at night, he was just overjoyed to see me and was so happy that I was there to keep him company.  He trusted that I would feed him and give him water.  Yet, he would have eaten more if I gave it to him. However, I only gave him enough to eat and not too much.  If I gave him too much, he would get sick.  He trusted that I would take him for a walk at night and got so excited when I approached him with his leash in hand.  He trusted that I would guide him along our journey together.  He trusted that I would keep him safe from all harm.  One thing Snoopy didn’t like to do was to go to the Veterinarian for his checkup and his shots.  As much as I hated to see him in pain from the shots, I knew he had to get them in order for him to stay healthy.  Snoopy never understood why he was getting these and there was no way I could communicate to him why he had to suffer. Yet, I knew why, and it was for his own good and for his long term health.  Even after getting these shots, Snoopy never rejected me or ignored me.  He just whimpered a little and then forgave me and started loving me just like he always did.  Snoopy was a very loving and loyal dog and it broke my heart the day I had to put him to sleep. 

            Why do I tell this story on the feast of the Ascension? Well, Jesus leaves his disciples and ascends into heaven.  Before he leaves, his final words are to go and spread the good news of the Gospel throughout the world.  I don’t know about you, but that would seem to me to be a difficult task, especially when their leader has abandoned them.  He asks them to trust him and that he will send them the Advocate to guide them on their mission.  If they trust him like Snoopy trusted me, they would have a very joyous and productive journey. 

            What about us? Do we love and trust God as much as Snoopy loved and trusted me?  Do we accept the gifts that God gives to us to sustain our lives, or do we seek more and more to the point we become sick with greed and selfishness?  Do we accept the pain and suffering we are subjected to or do we turn away from God and reject him?  Do we run to him everyday on a consistent basis and show our love and gratitude to him for even the simplest things in our lives?  My wish for all of you on this holy day is for you to love and trust God as much as my dog Snoopy loved and trusted me.  In this way, we can have a happy and joyous life and as a result, can be true messengers of Christ like the disciples were.

Homily for 4th Sunday in Easter – I want to be a sheep

posted May 15, 2017, 1:05 PM by Mary Tocimak

            Today, Jesus explains that he is a good shepherd and gate keeper for his sheep.  He explains to the Pharisees that he loves and protects his sheep from thieves and robbers.  Well, if he says he is the Good Shepherd, what does that make his followers? It means that we are sheep.  Now, I don’t know about you, but I a not sure I like the idea of being a sheep.  Let’s face it, they are very dirty and smelly animals. They are not very intelligent and other than their wool, what good are sheep anyway?

            Yet, as I studied the role of the sheep at the time of Jesus, I had a little change of heart.

 If we look closer at sheep, you might change your perspective as well.  First of all, sheep were a very valuable animal.  They provided food, milk, skin, wool and even their horns were used for weapons and for making sounds. They were very low maintenance and were easy to raise.  They ate most any vegetation that was presented to them by the shepherd.  The sheep would follow the voice of the shepherd.  He would use his voice to call the sheep and they would follow him to the source of their food for the day.  Aren’t we too better off when we follow the voice of Jesus in our lives rather than being left up to ourselves? I know that when I followed my own way of thinking, I got into more trouble.  Sheep need to be protected and Jesus protects us by giving us his grace to resist temptation and if we do submit to the temptation, he is there to forgive us and bring us back to the flock.  The shepherd leads his flock to pastures of good food.  In the case of Jesus, he leads us to his own body and blood in the Eucharist.  It is food we need for our spiritual journey.  To the sheep, they think that they will never run out of food as long as the shepherd is present.  We too will never run out of the Eucharist that Jesus gives to us.  Sheep need to stay together for their warmth, and protection.  We too gather together as a community for the mass.  We come here to be led by the Word of Christ and fed by the Eucharist.  Sheep need to submit to the will of the shepherd.  They need to trust in him for their food and their survival.  He is willing to give up his life for them.  They are not smart enough to think on their own.  God knows what we need in our lives so much more than we will ever be able to understand.  His intelligence is so much greater than ours, yet, we try and tell him what we need.  We try to tell the shepherd how to guard the sheep, what we need to eat, and how we are to be guarded.  Yet, Jesus is the greatest example of being the good shepherd.  Are we willing to be good sheep?  I know this may have sounded a little corny but think about it, we need to be led, fed and protected in our spiritual lives and we have the greatest example in Jesus.  This week, I know many of us are living very active lives; lives where we think we are in control over.  Sometimes, this type of thinking leads to stress and anxiety.  Maybe it is time to change the way we approach our life and be more like a sheep and be led by the shepherd.  They certainly don’t seem to be very stressed out in their daily activities.  Even if a wolf appears, they trust that the shepherd will take care of them, or if they get lost, he will find them.  I certainly could use less stress in my life.  How about you?  This week, try and be more like a sheep and see if it works for you too.



Homily for 2nd Sunday in Easter, Cycle A – Divine Mercy Sunday

posted Apr 21, 2017, 12:50 PM by Mary Tocimak

            Today, Jesus offers his peace to us when he appears to the Disciples after his resurrection.  His appearances are a reminder to us all that Jesus is with us always in our lives.  The peace He offers is also meant for us. 

            On May 23, 2000, Pope John Paul II declared the Second Sunday in Easter Divine Mercy Sunday.  It is a celebration of God’s infinite mercy and love.  It originated when Jesus appeared to Sister Faustina in 1938 and he revealed to her his need for a devotion to his infinite mercy and love.  He appeared in the image that is shown in the image here.  The red rays flowing out represent his blood and the blue rays represent the water of baptism.  Each forgives us our sins and allows us to experience the infinite love and mercy that Jesus extends to us.  Pope John Paul II wanted us all to be prepared for the second coming of Christ.  There are special indulgences for those that go to confession and receive the Holy Eucharist this week. 

            But how does this feast correspond to the offer that Jesus makes to us today for peace? In our Catholic faith, we believe that if we are sorrowful for our sins and go to confession, all our sins are forgiven.  Regardless of how serious a sin we commit, God forgives us.  This is truly great news.  Yet, how many of us have had our sins forgiven by God and are still not able to forgive ourselves?  I had this problem after the death of my mother.  In 1995, I was living in Houston, TX, and doing very well financially and living the good life as some would say.  However, my mother, who was living in the Philadelphia area at the time, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s.  I would visit my family during Thanksgiving or maybe for a week in the summer to play in a golf tournament with my brother or father.  However, I never went out of my way to visit my dad and mom and to give him a break as my mother’s care-giver.  I figured I would do so when her condition got worse and he really needed the help.  Well, as she continued to get worse, I didn’t visit any more often.  In February, 1998, she suffered a massive stroke and never recovered.  I never got a chance to tell her one last time that I loved her.  I felt so guilty for not helping my father take care of her and for not spending time with her rather than staying in Houston. I carried this guilt around for a several years.  I had several conversations with priests and spiritual directors to discuss this guilt.  They assured me that I have been forgiven by God. I also asked my father for his forgiveness and graciously gave it to me.  Finally, I sat down and wrote my mother a letter and asked her for her forgiveness and she forgave me.  It was then that I realized that I was the only one that felt guilty about this situation.  I finally accepted the peace of Christ in my life by letting go of the guilt I felt.  This is the promise of peace he gives to us today.  If we let go of our guilt and forgive ourselves, his peace will fill our hearts and we will be free from the burden of our sins.  This is truly the gift of his mercy and love in our lives.

            Why is it so hard for us to forgive ourselves?  The first thing is, do we truly believe that God forgives us?  In our head we know that he has but do we really believe it in our hearts?  We tend to compare God to other humans in our lives and believe that no human could ever forgive us for our sins.  Yet God is infinitely more merciful and forgiving than any human.  We have to trust in his mercy and love.  The second is that our offense is so grievous that no one could possibly ever forgive us.  Lastly, we cannot let go of the hurt we have caused others.  I had trouble letting go of the hurt I caused my mother and my father when I did not visit them.  Like Thomas in the Gospel today, I doubted in the message of Jesus.  It is quite common to do so because we are skeptical by nature. 

            In the Gospel, Jesus empowers the Disciples to forgive the sins of others, in essence, the institution of the Sacrament of reconciliation.  Yet, there are still some people that doubt that when they confess their sins to a priest and receive pardon and absolution, that their sins have not really been forgiven.  Again, they doubt the message of Jesus like Thomas did.  The words of Jesus need to be listened to and believed.  If the priest forgives you your sins, they are forgiven forever. Today, what are you holding onto from your past?  What sins have you been forgiven of that you are still holding onto?  Today, Jesus tells us that his peace is with us if we are willing to let these sins go free and believe and trust in his mercy and love.  In doing so, we will have the peace he offers to us today.


Easter, 2017 Homily

posted Apr 17, 2017, 11:59 AM by Mary Tocimak

On behalf of the staff here at Ss. Peter and Paul, we want to wish all of you a Happy and Blessed Easter.

            In today’s society, we like to be entertained.  Whether it is a movie, TV show, Sports, theatre, etc., we like to have somebody else provide us with a way to get away from it all.  They do all the work and we just sit back and enjoy them perform.  Let’s face it, if you are like me, I have enough drama going on in my life that I don’t need anymore.  In fact, I look for ways to eliminate some of the drama.  Within the past 10-15, Hollywood has produced many movies pertaining to Jesus and other stories or characters in the Bible.  There was the Passion, Moses, the 10 Commandments, Jesus, Exodus, and many more.  To me, they help to make the Scriptures come alive and give us a more realistic perspective of the culture and the life of those in the Bible.  Rather than watch a movie, some just prefer to read the Bible.  It is a great book filled with many good stories.  Like any good book, it has many great characters and lots of action.  We have Adam and Eve, Moses, Abraham, Noah, King David, Jesus and his band of disciples, St. Paul and many others.  It has lots of drama, love, war, heroes, villains, miracles, death and a happy ending.  It is a good book that can entertain us.

            So what does this have to do with Easter and the Resurrection?  Today, we celebrate the new life that Christ was given by His Father when He was raised from the dead.  It is the greatest event in human history.  Now, it would be wonderful if we just celebrated this event on its own.  However, to truly experience this Easter Resurrection, we have to move from spectator to participant.  We have to move from the audience in to the actual drama.  In order to truly celebrate the great feast of Easter, we too need to have a new life, a resurrected life in Christ.  That is why I had us prepare for this during Holy Thursday when we washed each other’s feet.  That is why during the stations of the cross on Friday that we carried the cross around the church like Christ carried the cross to Calvary.  To me, w need to experience what Christ experienced so that we can experience a new life on Easter.

            Now, rather than being a spectator, we participate in a new life in Christ.  That is what Easter is all about.  Being a true disciple of Christ means that we have a personal relationship with Christ.  We live along side him and not just watch what he does throughout His life.  We talk to him, ask him to help us through the tough times and rejoice with Him in the good times.  He becomes our leader, our guide, our focus, just like he was for the disciples.  In the same way that He died to self for others, we do the same as we show our love for God and others.  We read the Scriptures in a new and different way.  We put ourselves in similar situations that we are going through in our own lives.  We may need to be healed, or have our sight restored, or be raised up after falling from our sins.  This is how we approach the Bible, not a book to be read, but a story for us to live in like so many of the other people I mentioned earlier. 

            What does it take to make this happen?  It takes a great faith and trust in the message of Jesus.  It takes us believing that Christ is alive and well, dwelling among us and that He wants us to know and to love him.  Later in this mass, we renew our Baptismal promises as a way of being reborn in Christ.  Let this be our call to a new life in Christ; not as spectators, but as full and active participants.  In this way, we can truly rejoice this Easter.  We can truly experience the joy and peace in our lives that He promises to us.  Alleluia, Jesus has been raised from the dead.  That is the good news of the Resurrection.  The better news is that since He was raised, so are we!!  Let us rejoice and be glad.


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