Father's Homilies

Homily for 24th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Faith and Works

posted Sep 18, 2018, 11:49 AM by Mary Tocimak

Homily for 24th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Faith and Works



            Today I want to try and clarify a long standing dispute between Catholics and some Protestant denominations. The dispute is about salvation by faith or salvation by faith and works. The dispute came about when Martin Luther was struggling with his own faith journey. Luther grew up believing that he had to earn his way into heaven and became very scrupulous.  He often went to confession several times a week and spent most of his early life in fear of going to hell because of the slightest little sin. Once he realized that he was saved by faith alone, he began the great reformation against the Catholic Church. However, we as Catholics believe that we are saved by faith and works.

            Let me start with a definition of faith.  Faith is a gift from God that we receive when we are baptized.  We, or our parents and godparents, accepted this gift on our behalf.  With this gift comes another gift, the gift of free will.  It is in this gift of free will that we have the ability to either love God or to reject him in our lives.  If we accept this gift of faith, we will be granted entry into the kingdom of heaven, we are also called to put this gift into practice by our works.  If we reject this gift, and turn our back on God in our lives, we will be condemned on judgment day.

            Now what are works?  They are our actions that show that we truly love God and love our neighbor.  Our works should be done for two purposes.  The first is that we perform these works in thanksgiving to God and want to show our gratitude to him.  And second, we do these works as an example to others so that they too want to accept this gift of faith themselves, or for them to renew this gift and turn their lives around.  We do not do these works as a way of gaining entrance into heaven.  Christ already did that for us and we do not earn our way into heaven by our works.

            In St. Paul’s letter to the Corinthians, he clearly states that faith without love is like a bell that cannot make any noise.  Faith opens the door to the kingdom of heaven, but love, love of God and love of our neighbor, allows us to take up residence in the kingdom of Heaven. Yet, it is our intention in performing these works that is just as important.  We need to perform these works out of gratitude to God and to lead others to God, and not for our own selfish desires. This week, put your faith into practice and thank God for the gift of faith that you have received and share that gift with others.  In this way, you too will be able to take up residence in the kingdom of heaven once your time here on earth has been completed. 

Homily for 23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time, Cycle B

posted Sep 8, 2018, 12:35 PM by Mary Tocimak

Homily for 23rd Sunday in Ordinary Time, Cycle B


With all the kids going back to school, I thought it would be appropriate to have a short Scripture lesson about today's Gospel from St. Mark. As a way of background, the overall theme of St. Mark’s Gospel is that he wants his readers to come to the conclusion that Jesus is the Son of God. Mark writes more of a historical aspect of Jesus’ time here on earth compared to St. John who portrays Jesus in a more divine manner.

            In today's passage, Jesus is traveling from Tyre and Sidon into the Decapolis, the area of the 10 cities. Tyre, Sidon, and the Decapolis are pagan areas or Gentile areas in Israel. Mark wants to explain to his readers that Jesus came not only to save the Jews but also to save the pagans and Gentiles. This goes against the true beliefs of the Jews because they believed that the Messiah would come to save only them and not other people.

            When the people bring the deaf and dumb man to Jesus, they do it out of love and compassion for that man. They too want him to be able to hear and speak to Jesus like they can. Jesus then takes the man off by himself to a quiet place where he can be alone with the man. This shows that Jesus loves us each individually and cares for each of us as a child of God. He lays his hands on the man as his first act of healing. During the sacrament of the anointing of the sick, the priest lays his hands on the person in the same manner that Jesus did for this man. Next, Jesus puts his fingers into the man’s ears and touches his tongue. During the sacrament of baptism, the priest or the deacon, as well as the godparents of the person being baptized, do the same. This is to follow the example of Jesus, allowing the person being Baptized to hear the message of Jesus and then to proclaim it or tell this message to others. Because Mark does not name this man, the man represents all of us. We too are called to go off to a quiet place to be with Jesus so that we can listen to him and talk with him.  However, this doesn't have to be in a church. It can be in your car, or in your office, or taking a quiet walk, or in my case on the golf course. Jesus talks to us in our conscience, that little voice inside of us that helps us to make the right decisions. He talks to us in our daydreams. He talks to us through other humans. I experienced this when others tried to get me to stop drinking. He talks to us when we read the Bible.  Yet, regardless of how Jesus talks to us, we have to be in a position to listen to him. We can't be so busy or surround ourselves with so much noise in our lives that we can't listen to him.

            Finally why does Jesus tell the people not to tell anyone about this healing?  Jesus wants them to experience his healing as power that he has as the Son of God. Remember what I said earlier, Mark wants his readers to come to believe that Jesus is the son of God. Jesus doesn't want to only being known as a healer of the sick but someone much greater. We too may have our own idea of who Jesus is in our own lives. Who is Jesus to you? Is he a friend, a Savior, someone you turn to in your time of need? To me he is all of these.  This week, take time to quiet yourself down during the day. Maybe you can turn off your radio in the car or take a short walk by yourself and allow Jesus to talk to you. He will, you just have to be ready to listen to his voice.

Homily for Christmas, Midnight Mass, Cycle B - 2017

posted Jan 2, 2018, 11:52 AM by Mary Tocimak

            Merry Christmas and on behalf the entire parish family here at the Ss. Peter and Paul, I wish you a very Merry Christmas and blessed New Year.

            I don't know about you, but I really like all the preparations that go into getting ready for Christmas, especially the Christmas carols on the radio. However my message to you is this, don't be like a radio station, yes don't be like a radio station. Let me explain in more detail.  It starts sometime in mid-November;  the radio stations start easing into playing Christmas carols and then just after Thanksgiving, some stations play nothing but Christmas songs. We hear the angels harking, the drummer boy drumming, the chestnuts roasting, the dogs barking jingle bells, the call to go shout it from the mountain, the dream of a white Christmas, or trying to get home for Christmas, and then we sing Joy to the World on Christmas, and the next day we have a silent night; no more Christmas carols. No more grandma's getting run over by a reindeer, no more Santa's kissing mama, no more need for two front teeth, no more jingle bells. All we have left to look forward to is the coming of the three wise men. My message is simple don't be like the radio stations and shut off Christmas so soon.

            Like I said earlier I like all the preparations for Christmas, putting up decorations, sending Christmas cards, buying presents, going to dinners and parties, traveling back to Philly to spend time with my family, and celebrating mass here at the Cathedral especially since it is completely full. I also enjoy helping those in need by visiting the hospitals, visiting the nursing homes, and helping those in need. Why do I enjoy it so much? Because of all the love. Think about it, don't we send out Christmas cards so that we can express our love for others in our lives?  Don't we buy presents to express our love and gratitude for others in our lives? Don't we invite others over for dinner or to a party because we want to spend time with those we care about and share in the fellowship of eating and drinking together? It is all about love. Don't we help those in need because we feel blessed by God's bounty in our lives and want to share that with others? Why, because of love. Why are we here this evening? Why did we come to mass?  We are here to joyfully celebrate the birth of Jesus. But why was Jesus sent here to earth and why was he even born? He had to be born to show us that he is fully human. He came to earth as one of us, as a man.  Mankind was the one that sinned when Adam and Eve disobeyed God and God knew he had to save mankind in the same form, by a human. So why did God send his son and not another human? Because God sending his son was the greatest act of love ever in the history of mankind. God became man and came to this world as a humble tiny baby and to eventually suffer and die for our sake and for our salvation. So why are we so joyful today? My belief is because of all the love that we are sharing today; that is, the love we express towards each other and towards God here at mass.  With all this love in the air, it is hard not to be joyful.

            Wouldn't it be great if we could feel that same joy all year round? Wouldn't our world be better if we were this loving, compassionate, and considerate all year long? Well we can be. In 1 John, Chapter 4, we hear that God is love.  In the Gospels, Jesus tells us we are all called to love God and to love our new neighbor. If we do this we will receive the joy and peace of Christ in our lives. Well today is proof that what Jesus says is true; we are more joyful because we are loving God more and our neighbor more than any other day of the year.

            So how do we keep this feeling of joy in peace and our lives long after Christmas is over, the tree taken down, the decorations put away, and the presents stored away? We need to continue to express our love for others on a consistent basis. I am not saying you need to go out and get presents, or send cards all year long. What I am asking you to do is to give everyone the gift of kindness, the present of a smile, a complement rather than being judgmental or gossiping, give the gift of patience and consideration rather than always being so demanding and insisting on what you need now. If we think of others’ needs rather than our needs and wants, and try to make others feel better for being a part of our lives, then we will experience the joy and peace in our lives that Christ promises us and that we are experiencing today. Again it doesn't take much, just invite Jesus into your hearts today and keep him there by being more loving and kind to others. If you want to keep them there forever, talk to him more often, make him your friend. In this way his love will fill your heart now and forever. Sure I would greatly appreciate for all of you to be back next week and every week of the year. However if you just try and bring a little joy to others during each day, you will be given that same feeling of joy in your life that you are experiencing today. We have spent so much time and effort preparing for his coming, now we need to not let him go away after Christmas is over. It would be such a shame to spend all that time and effort getting ready for Christmas, and then just let Christmas fade away until next year. Let us make a concerted effort to extend the joy we have in our hearts today for a longer period of time throughout the year by being kinder to others, by spreading our love to others more consistently throughout the year, by becoming friends with Jesus and by helping others in need. Christmas is a special time of year yet is up to us to keep it going long into the New Year. Don't be like a radio station and shut off Christmas tomorrow rather extend the joy and peace you feel today long into the New Year. In this way you will truly experience the gift of Christ coming to earth and Christ coming into your life. He will give you the joy and peace we so all desperately want. Again Merry Christmas to all of you and may you have a blessed and joyful new year.


Fr. John’s Christmas Message

posted Dec 21, 2017, 2:09 PM by Mary Tocimak

On Behalf of the entire parish staff here at Ss. Peter and Paul Catholic Church, I want to wish all of you a most Holy and Blessed Christmas.

I am sure almost all of you have heard the phrase that it is better to give than to receive.  I preach about this topic all the time and you have been most generous in responding to the needs of others.  As a result of your generosity, our parish has been blessed by a tremendous growth in spirituality, joy and love.  When I visit other parishes, I can see that these people do not share in the same level of peace and tranquility that we have here at Ss. Peter and Paul. 

So the question I have for all of us to ponder this Christmas season is the following:  Is there a time in our lives when it is better to receive than to give?  Sure, if you are in need a blood transfusion, or an organ donation, it is only logical that you would accept these gifts.  However, this time of year, we are so focused on buying the perfect gift for others, do we prepare ourselves to receive gifts from others?  I know that when I receive cards and gifts, it is a very humbling experience.  Yet, are we prepared to receive the greatest gift ever on Christmas, the baby Jesus into our hearts. 

When we are baptized, our souls are made clean and free so that we can accept the gift of Christ into our heart and soul.  Unfortunately, as we grow older, our hearts get filled with other things that tend to squeeze Jesus out.  For example, we focus on accumulating possessions, power, prestige, and many other things.  We also store up emotions such as anger, guilt, jealousy, pride, and others that replace Jesus in our hearts.  Yet, when we give to others, these self-centered traits are cleared out to make room for Jesus to re-enter our hearts.  Even-though we make room for Him, do we truly receive Him fully, or is it just for a short visit?  As much as we may feel we are not deserving of this great gift, Jesus wants to take up residence in our hearts forever.  To do so, we must fully accept Him and His love, His mercy and His grace. 

So how do we keep Him in our hearts permanently?  By living a life full of gratitude for the things God has blessed us with.  By letting Jesus be our guide in our decision making; what would Jesus do in this situation?  By living a life of love of God and others like He did.  To make this commitment, we need to make Him a bigger part of our lives.  That is where prayer and the sacraments help to nourish and strengthen us.  It is not easy to live like this on a consistent basis. That is why Jesus gave us himself and the Holy Spirit to help and guide us.  My Christmas wish for all of you is for you to receive the greatest gift this Christmas, the baby Jesus into your hearts forever!!

Origin of Christmas Traditions and Customs

posted Dec 19, 2017, 11:39 AM by Mary Tocimak


1)  Origin of Christmas Holiday


            According to some legends, the Christian celebration of Christmas was invented to compete against the pagan festivals held in December. The 25th was sacred not only to the Romans, but also to the Persians whose religion of Mithraism was one of Christianity's main rivals at that period in time. The Church was, however, finally successful in removing the merriment, lights and gifts from the Saturanilia festival and transferring them to the celebration of a Christian Christmas.

            Christmas means "Christ's Mass" and is the celebration of Jesus Christ's birth and baptism. Although December 25th is generally accepted as being the time when the Christ Child was born, the exact date has never been chronicled with any degree of accuracy. There is neither scriptural nor secular evidence to establish the exact moment. One thing is relatively certain, however, the event did not take place in December. Since the child was born when shepherds were "abiding in the field, keeping watch over their flocks by night" (Luke 2:8), it is unlikely that shepherds in Israel would have been sleeping outside with their flocks during the month of December. In winter, the herders would have led their sheep outside only during the daylight hours...the nights would have been far too cold. It is known that during the very early Christian centuries, the birth of the Christ Child was not celebrated in any manner. However, tradition dictates that the occasion has been commemorated since 98 A.D. In 137 A.D., the Bishop of Rome ordered that the birthday of Jesus Christ be observed as a solemn feast. In 350 A.D., Julius I (another Bishop of Rome) selected December 25th as the observance of Christmas. This date was made official in 375 A.D., when it was formally announced that the birth of Jesus would be honored on this day...the announcement also allowed some of the older festivals (such as feasting, dancing and the exchange of gifts) to be incorporated into the observance of Christmas. The use of greenery to decorate homes continued to be prohibited as pagan idolatry but, over the centuries, this too became an accepted custom of the festivities.

In Colonial America there were no Christmas celebrations. As recently as 100 years or so ago, such observances were declared illegal in many parts of theUnited States, including most of New England, being defined as pagan and a reproach to the Lord. (Today, it is against the law in some areas to display any Christmas symbols that are not pagan in nature...the erecting of nativity scenes, for example, are banned in some regions of America. Ironically, New England being one such area).

In Puritan Massachusetts, anyone caught observing the holiday was obliged to pay a fine. Connecticut also enacted a law forbidding the celebration of Christmas...and the baking of mincemeat pies. A few of the earliest settlers, however, did celebrate Christmas, but it was far from a common holiday during the Colonial era.

            Prior to the American Civil War, the North and South were divided on the issue of Christmas as much as they were on the question of slavery. Many Northerners considered it sinful to celebrate Christmas since Thanksgiving was a much more appropriate holiday. In the South, however, Christmas played an important role in the social season. Perhaps not surprisingly, the first three American States to declare Christmas a legal holiday were located in the South: Alabama in 1836; and Louisiana and Arkansas, both in 1838.

In the years following the Civil War, Christmas traditions began to filter across the country. Children's books played a vital role in spreading the customs of Christmas celebrations, particularly the tradition of trimmed trees and gifts delivered by Santa Claus. Sunday School Classes encouraged participation in such celebrations. The emergence of women's magazines also played an important part in promoting the festival of Christmas, by suggesting various ways to decorate for the holidays, as well as supplying instructions on how to make such decorations.


2)  Christmas Tree


Green for hope. Evergreen for everlasting life; it is a tree that never dies in the fall or winter.  Needles point upward to heaven. Sign of fertility in the wintertime.


3)  Christmas Colors


The colors most often associated with Christmas decorating are green, red, white, blue, silver and gold. These colors have been used for centuries and, as with most traditions, the reason may be traced to religious beliefs. In this instance, green represents everlasting life and hope, red represents the bloodline of Jesus Christ, blue represents the sky from which the angels appeared, white represents the purity of the Virgin Birth, and silver and gold represent the richness of God's Blessings.


4)  Christmas Lights


Represent that the light of Christ is present in this household.  Also the lights on the tree, meaning everlasting life, is that Christ is the source of this everlasting life.


5)  Christmas Tree Decorations


The first decorations to appear on Christmas trees were edible foods like apples, perhaps stemming from their use in Medieval mystery plays (see above). Over time, the foods became more festive, like candy canes and popcorn strings. Ornaments made of ceramics, glass, metal, and wood became part of the decorating tradition, perhaps because they lasted longer than the edible ones. These ornaments had shapes like stars and hearts. Following the tradition started by Martin Luther, candles were used on Christmas trees. Stringing decor like popcorn (which may have led to stringing lights) and glass balls are both thought to have originated in Germany.


 6)  Candy Cane


Sweet Secrets of the Candy Cane

There are many other legends and beliefs surrounding the humble candy cane. Many of them depict the candy cane as a secret symbol for Christianity used during the times when Christian were living under more oppressive circumstances. It was said that the cane was shaped like a "J" for Jesus. The red-and-white stripes represented Christ's blood and purity. The three red stripes symbolized the Holy Trinity. The hardness of the candy represented the Church's foundation on solid rock and the peppermint flavor represented the use of hyssop, an herb referred to in the Old Testament.  A Catholic priest named Gregory Keller invented a machine to automate candy cane production during the 1950's.


7)  Mistle Toe


            Mistletoe was a popular decoration at Roman winter festivals. The “kissing bush” was first popularized in the late 18th Century and originally contained more than mistletoe. Holly, evergreens, fruit, and mistletoe were often bunched together and then hung over doorways to instigate kissing. No one is exactly sure why mistletoe became a favorite doorway ornament, but by the middle of the 19th Century it was a popular custom. (3) Mistletoe, like holly, stays green and produces berries over the winter, making it a natural for Yuletide decoration. Verdict: A little bit of Christian and Pagan. Pagans certainly decorated with it, as did later Christians, but it was Christians who began the kissing custom.

8)  Advent Wreath


The Advent Wreath is made of evergreens to symbolize the everlasting God and immortality of humankind. Evergreens also represent the victory of life through darkness and challenge. The fact that an evergreen can live through winter signifies the strength of life itself. Green is also the color of the Church, representative of hope and new life. Four candles...three of purple or violet, symbolizing penance, sorrow, longing and expectation, and one candle of rose or pink to represent hope and coming joy...are placed within the wreath as symbols of the four weeks of Advent. These are replaced with white candles for the Christmas Season which ends with Epiphany. Wreaths are an ancient symbol of victory and to Christians, symbolize the fulfillment of time in the coming of Christ and the glory of his birth.


9)  Santa Claus


The Dutch words for Saint Nicholas are Sinter Klaus. Saint Nicholas lived in Myra (known today as Turkey) during the Fourth Century. The only child of a wealthy family, he was orphaned at an early age when both parents succumbed to the plague. Nicholas grew up in a monastery and, at seventeen years of age, became one of the order's youngest priests. There are numerous tales detailing his generosity, given in the form of gifts to those in need...especially children. Legends tell of Nicholas dropping bags of gold down chimneys or throwing purses through windows where they would land in stockings hung to dry by the fireplace.

Though he is one of the most popular saints, there is little historical certainty about the life of Saint Nicholas. He is believed to have been born at Patara, a city of Lycia in Asia Minor around 280 A.D. and, in his youth, made a pilgrimage to Palestine sand Egypt, possibly studying at Alexandria, which was at that time the major center of learning. Shortly after returning to his homeland, he was made Bishop of Myra. Imprisoned during the persecution of Diocletian, Nicholas was released after the accession of Constantine.

Saint Nicholas died of an unidentified sickness on December 6th. Dependent upon varying sources, the year was 330 A.D., or 345 A.D. or possibly 352 A.D. He was interred in the Cathedral at Myra. In 1087 A.D., this city fell to Islamic invaders and Nicholas' body was either rescued or stolen by Italian merchants and transported to Bari in Italy. A pilgrimage church was erected on the site so that Crusaders might pray there en route to or from the Holy Land. Officially recognized as a saint by the Eastern Catholic Church some time in the Eleventh Century, Saint Nicholas is the third most beloved religious figure after Jesus Christ and the Virgin Mary.

Otherwise known as the "Wonder-Worker," he is credited with having performed countless miracles, both before and after his death. He is the Patron Saint of Greece and Russia, as well as many individual cities in Europe, such as Naples and Moscow. He is also the Patron Saint of mariners, merchants, bankers, travelers and, of course, children.


10) Christmas Cards


Christmas cards were introduced in England in the 1840s. Their forerunners were the letters known as "Christmas Pieces" written by schoolboys being educated away from home who would send seasonal correspondences to their parents. The letters, written on special paper with elaborate engraved or printed borders and headings, were adorned with scrolls, flourishes, Biblical scenes and flowers. The writing of these letters gave the boys an opportunity to display proof of their penmanship and progress they had made in the art of writing throughout the school year.


By the Twentieth Century, the Christmas card industry had ballooned with estimated annual sales of three-and-a-half billion to four billion cards. Statistics indicate that each American family exchanges an average of 60 cards each holiday season. Thus, in a little over a hundred years, the sending and receiving of Christmas cards had become a firmly-established tradition.



11) Christmas Presents


Because Saturnalia took place at the Solstice, it was also known as the Festival of Lights. Many of the presents were gifts of candles which the people would burn throughout the winter nights to summon the Sun back to life. These Roman traditions of feasting and gift-giving were, according to some sources, later absorbed into the Christian Christmas celebrations by virtue of the Apostles who brought the Gospel to Rome. Through the teaching of the Disciples, people learned of the Three Wise Men who traveled from the Orient bringing gifts to the newborn King. From that time on, the ancient custom became slightly altered. The exchanging of presents remained, but now it was in imitation of the gifts donated by the Magi to the Christ Child.

Later, it became customary to give gloves (or the money to purchase them). This was known as "glove money" and later extended to gifts of metal pins, which were introduced in the Sixteenth Century. Eventually "pin money" came to mean the small amounts of cash that women were allowed to spend in any manner they pleased during the centuries when they lacked economic rights. Sweet things have always been a traditional gift to ensure sweetness in the coming year, as are lamps which symbolize a wish for light and warmth, along with presents of money to represent the wish for increasing wealth. It is believed that the actual wrapping of gifts may have originated in Denmark.


12) Christmas Carols


Christian scriptures detail a world of spirits and nine choirs of Angels who were sent by God into the lives of humankind. Legend tells that in Bethlehem, people heard the Angels sing one time in unison to announce the birth of the Christ Child. The words thought to ring out at that moment were: Gloria in exelsis Deo, et in terra pax hominibus bonae voluntatis. Therefore, this is considered to be the first Christmas carol.

Christmastime music began with the litanies, or musical prayers, of the Christian Church. An early historian wrote that in approximately 100 A.D., the Bishop of Rome urged his people to sing "in celebration of the birthday of our Lord." By 400 A.D., priests would stroll around their parishes on Christmas Eve singing these Latin hymns.

St. Francis of Assisi is credited with being the "Father of Caroling." Only church officials had been encouraged to sing carols prior to the time of St. Francis. In 1223, however, the saint placed a crèche, miniature Nativity scene, in a hermitage at Greechio, Italy. After this, many churches began displaying such scenes at Christmas and soon, people began to act out the events of the Holy Night. The actors composed Christmas carols to sing during their Nativity plays and, later, would stroll through the streets still singing. In that manner, did street-caroling come to be.


By the Middle Ages, wandering minstrels were traveling from hamlet to castle performing their carols. Later still, villages had their own bands of "waits." Waits were originally watchmen who patrolled the streets and byways of the old walled cities, keeping guard against fire and singing to while away the night hours. During the holiday season, the waits would include carols in their repertoires. Not everyone was delighted with this display of musical entertainment, however, and many townspeople complained, declaring they would rather get a good night's sleep than have somebody singing under their windows. Eventually the term was used to describe groups of musicians who sang and played at various civic events during the Christmas season.

The word "carol" derives from a Greek dance called a choraulein, which was accompanied by flute music. The dance later spread throughout Europe and became particularly popular by the French, who replaced the flute music with singing. Originally, people performed carols on many occasions during the year. By the 1600s, carols involved singing only and Christmas had become the chief holiday for these songs. Counted among the most favored of non-religious carols are "Jingle Bells" and "White Christmas," both of which first appeared as popular songs in the United States.


13) Holly


Tradition has it that God spoke to Moses in the wilderness from a holly bush. Another legend holds that "because the holly kept secret the whereabouts of our Savior when His enemies were searching for Him, it was rewarded with the privilege of keeping its green leaves all winter". Holly berries symbolize Christ's blood, and the holly's thorn His crown of thorns. Thus holly, a Christmas symbol, also prefigures Christ's Passion. Traditionally, the holly wreath is hung on the Christian family's home as an invitation to the spirit of the Christ child to enter. The candle in the wreath is to show Him the way.



14) Poinsettia


The poinsettia blooms at Christmas in Mexico, where the flower is called the Flower of the Good Night (Christmas Eve.) According to a Mexican legend, the flower acquired this title because of a miracle. A little Mexican boy, eager to visit the Christ Child in the manger in his village Church, was unhappy because he had no gift to offer. Nevertheless, he gathered branches of green leaves from a bush that grew along the dusty road and took them to the Church. The other children made fun of the boy's rude gift, but when he presented the weeds, all were astonished to see a brilliant, red, star-shaped flower blooming on each branch.



15) Christmas Stockings


Stockings: According to legend Saint Nicholas once helped an old widower provide dowries for his three daughters by anonymously tossing three bags of coins into some stockings.  In popular myth, that story of Saint Nicholas is the reason why people hang stockings “by the chimney with care” today, but the inclusion of the stockings are most likely a late addition to the tale. The first (and in some places still the most common) receptacles for toys at Christmas were shoes. In many countries Saint Nicholas still puts presents in hopefully not smelly shoes. Clement Moore wrote about stockings in his poem guaranteeing their prominence in the United States and in some parts of Europe.


Homily for 32nd Sunday in Ordinary Time – Cycle A

posted Nov 12, 2017, 2:21 PM by Mary Tocimak

            To me it is fairly obvious that today's Gospel message is all about us being vigilant and being prepared for the second coming of Christ. We do not know when our time on earth will be completed and we need to always be prepared for that date. In the Gospel those that are prepared are welcome into the banquet and those that are not are left out in the cold of the night. Pretty obvious isn't it?

            However, if we look deeper at this passage, there may be some other lessons that might be helpful to us.  The Bridegroom represents Christ and he is headed off to be united with his new bride.  At the time of Christ, marriages were prearranged so when he leaves, he goes to the house of the bride and finalizes all the arrangements for the marriage with the father of the bride.  This may take some time so that is why the 10 virgins are not sure when he will be returning.  The ten virgins are to light the way to the wedding banquet for the wedding party.  They are the welcoming party to kickoff the seven days of the wedding celebration.  As we hear in the Gospel, each virgin starts off with a lit torch to light the way when the wedding party returns.  However, only 5 bring enough oil to keep their lamps lit.  The other 5 run out of oil and need to leave and purchase more. 

            So what is Jesus trying to tell us in this story, other than the obvious lesson about being prepared?  First, the fire represents our faith.  It is given to us when we are baptized as a gift from God.  The oil represents the grace we receive from God when we are faithful to his will in our own lives; be doing acts of charity, receiving the sacraments, praying, loving God and loving our neighbor, etc. As long as we continue to do the will of God, he will continue to shower us with his grace.  This grace allows us to keep our flame of faith burning for all others to see.  The 5 wise virgins were doing the will of God and therefore, had enough oil to sustain them.  Unfortunately, the 5 foolish virgins had the same faith, however, chose not to do the will of God and used their gifts selfishly.  They stored up earthly treasures and not heavenly treasures.  Therefore, they did not have any grace to sustain their flame of faith.  One question that has always bothered me is why didn’t the wise virgins share their oil.  It appears to me that they were being selfish.  In reality, the arrival of the bridegroom signifies the second coming of Christ on judgment day.  On that day, we will all come before God and we will not have any opportunity to do anything more to gain favor with him, and we will not be able to help anyone else.  Our time on earth will be over and our lives will be judged accordingly.  That is why the 5 wise virgins could not help the 5 foolish virgins. 

            So what is the real moral of the story?  Sure, we must be prepared for the coming of Christ.  But how are we to prepare?  We need to put our faith into action.  We must pray, receive the sacraments, do charitable works and do the will of God in our lives, and not our own will.  In this way, we will store up heavenly treasure and not earthy treasures that will be gone when we die.  As the holidays come upon us, we will have many opportunities to live out our faith by going to confession, giving to the needy, and being the light of Christ for others to see.  In this way, we will never run out of the oil of God’s grace.  In this way, when Christ the bridegroom comes, he will see our flame of faith burning brightly and welcome us into the heavenly banquet.

Homily for 31st Sunday in Ordinary Time

posted Nov 4, 2017, 10:28 AM by Mary Tocimak

As a newly ordained priest and being a man of mature faith, a nice way of stating that I am an older man, today's readings are a great reminder to me of what my role is to be as a priest.  Today’s readings gave me an opportunity to examine where I am in my priesthood and an opportunity to examine my heart to see what I need to do to improve. However one question I am often asked is, don't you wish you could have been ordained many years ago? I can honestly say that many years ago I would not have been a very good priest. God called me to the priesthood at just the right time in my life. Let me explain in more detail. From the early 70’s to 2002 I was in a relationship with my wife Kimberly and trying to make a living as a sales person.  My career as a sales person got off to a very slow start. When I was first starting out in sales, I would find a prospect and as quickly as possible, I would try to determine how big a sale I could make and then calculate my commission. My motivation was on how much money I would make on the sale rather than on the customers needs and trying to solve their problems. The same could be said of the early years of my marriage. I was happy in my marriage as long as my needs were being met. As my sales career and my marriage faltered, I realized that I had to change my attitude if I wanted to save these aspects of my life. I had to put the needs of my customers ahead of my needs and I had to put the needs of my wife ahead of my own. In other words I had to be a servant to them rather than them serving me.

            As time went on I also came to understand that I am an alcoholic. One of the primary symptoms of alcoholism is self-centeredness. As an alcoholic you believe that the world revolves around you and your needs. God knew that I needed to be sober for an extended period of time so that my priorities in life would be changed from self-serving to being a servant to others. God knew that if I was ordained years ago I would not be a very good priest. As outlined in today's readings as I stand before you I have tried to put God ahead of everything in my life and have tried to serve you, the people of God.  I still have a long way to go in my life in my efforts to truly be a humble servant of the Lord and his people.  I need to spend more time in prayer especially quiet prayer in front of the Blessed Sacrament. I also need to do a better job of humbly serving you people.  I want to do more to invite the people that have left the church to come back. I want to help the poor and marginalized and I want to especially help all of you grow closer to Christ in a more personal way.

            So what have I learned? That I find a great sense of peace and tranquility in my life when I spend some quiet time in conversations with God. This is especially true when I am the busiest and when I don't think I can make time to be quiet and to listen to God talking to me.  The next thing is that being a servant to others is not something you do on occasion but rather is a way of life. Nothing makes me happier than helping others. This could be in counseling, in teaching the youth, giving golf lessons at the driving range, in preaching, or in visiting people in the nursing homes and hospitals, I learned that serving others is an attitude;  a way of going through life. However it has taken me quite some time to make this a reality in my life.

            Where are you in your life? Is God the highest priority and Jesus your role model? Do you have an attitude of serving others or having others serve you? We are all members of the priesthood of Christ's Church and called to love God and love our neighbor. This is not something we are called to do on an occasional basis, on Sundays for an hour or so but as a way of life. I used these readings as a way to examine my life as a priest and although I still have a long way to go I feel I am on the right track. Are you? I encourage you to take some time to examine your lives to see where loving God and serving others is on your priority list in your life.


Homily for 19th Sunday in Ordinary Time- Jesus Walks on the Water

posted Aug 17, 2017, 1:06 PM by Mary Tocimak


            Today, we hear the story of Peter and Jesus walking on the water.  However, before I can explain this in more detail, After Jesus fed the 5,000, he wanted some quiet time to mourn the loss of his cousin St. John the Baptist. He told his disciples to get in the boat and go to the other side of the Sea of Galilee and he would meet them there.  This is important to note because Jesus sent them on a journey but told them He would meet them on the other side, at their destination.  He didn’t say that there would not be storms along the way or that the journey would be easy, just that they would arrive safely. 

            Now the boat represents the Church and the people inside the boat are all of us.  We are on this spiritual journey together and we all encounter storms on this journey.  Those storms are temptations to sin.  So how did the Disciples have the storms calmed?  They invited Jesus into the boat and he calmed the storm.  Please note that they couldn’t calm the storm on their own.  They had to invite Jesus into the storm of their lives and he took care of the storm. Now, in the  middle of the storm, he asks Peter to join him on the water.  Once Peter leaves the safety of the boat, he is able to walk on the water as long as he focuses on Jesus and not the storm.  However, Peter loses his focus on Jesus and turns his attention on the storm rather than Jesus.  Now, I can talk about all the temporal storms we have in our lives, such as financial difficulties, or relationship issues, or illnesses or any other of problems that are of a temporal nature.  Last week, I talked about trusting in Jesus to help you with these issues and even gave you an example of how that works earlier.  Now I want to focus on the Spiritual storms in our lives, the temptations that come our way.  It may be greed, or lust, envy, anger, swearing gossiping etc.  Whatever the spiritual storms you have in your life, you need to call upon Jesus to calm that storm and if you sink like Peter did because the storm overwhelmed you and you sinned, you can reach out and take Jesus’ hand and ask him for forgiveness in the sacrament of reconciliation.  In this way, you know that you to will reach the other side on your spiritual journey, the journey to heaven and ever lasting life with God, and all the angels and saints.  This week, we will all be on a spiritual journey together.  Once we encounter a storm, invite Jesus into the boat and have him calm that storm so you can make safely to the other side as He promised you would. 

Common Phrases that have Biblical Origin

posted Aug 8, 2017, 11:27 AM by Mary Tocimak

1. Bite the Dust
Psalms 72:9, “They that dwell in the wilderness shall bow before him;
and his enemies shall lick the dust.” (KJV)

2. The Blind Leading the Blind
Matthew 15:13-14, “Let them alone: they be blind leaders of the blind.
And if the blind lead the blind, both shall fall into the ditch.”

3. By the Skin of Your Teeth
Job 19:20. The Geneva Bible translated the Hebrew Literally which
read, “I have escaped with the skin of my teeth.”

4. Broken Heart
Psalms 34:18, “The Lord is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart;
and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit” (KJV).

5. Can a Leopard Change his spots?
Jeremiah 13:23 (KJV), “Can the Ethiopian change his skin, or the
leopard his spots? then may ye also do good, that are accustomed to
do evil.”

6. Cast the First Stone
John 8:7, “And as they continued to ask him, he stood up and said to
them, “Let him who is without sin among you be the first to throw a
stone at her.”

7. Drop in a Bucket
Isaiah 40:15 declaring God’s sovereignty and power over the nations,
“Behold, the nations are as a drop of a bucket, and are counted as the
small dust of the balance: behold, he takes up the isles as fine dust”

8. Eat, Drink, and Be Merry
Ecclesiastes 8:15, “because a man hath no better thing under the sun,
than to eat, and to drink, and to be merry: for that shall abide with him
of his labour the days of his life, which God giveth him under the sun.”

9. Eye for Eye, Tooth for Tooth
Matthew 5:38, “Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an
eye, and a tooth for a tooth.”

10. Fall From Grace
Galatians 5:4, “Christ is become of no effect unto you, whosoever of
you are justified by the law; ye are fallen from grace.”

11. Fly in the Ointment
Ecclesiastes 10:1 (KJV), “”Dead flies cause the ointment of the
apothecary to send forth a stinking savour: so doth a little folly him
that is in reputation for wisdom and honour.””

12. For Everything there is a Season
Ecclesiastes 3. Ecclesiastes 3 is also the motivation for the song “Turn!
Turn! Turn!” by the Byrds.

13. Forbidden Fruit
Genesis 3:3 when Adam and Eve were commanded not to eat from the
tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil. “But of the fruit of the tree
which is in the midst of the garden, God hath said, Ye shall not eat of
it, neither shall ye touch it, lest ye die.”

14. Go the extra mile
Matthew 5:41 that says, “And whosoever shall compel thee to go a
mile, go with him twain” (KJV).

15. Good Samaritan
Luke 10:30-37, the Parable of the Good Samaritan.

16. He who lives by the sword, dies by the sword
Matthew 26:52, “Then said Jesus unto him, Put up again thy sword
into his place: for all they that take the sword shall perish with the

17. How the Mighty have Fallen
1 Samuel 1:19, “The beauty of Israel is slain upon thy high places: how
are the mighty fallen!”

18. Let there Be Light
Genesis 1’s creation account.

19. The Love of Money is the Root of All Evil
1 Timothy 6:10 and is actually usually misquoted. Here is the ESV
translation, “For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is
through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith
and pierced themselves with many pangs.”

20. Nothing but skin and bones
Job 19:19-20, “All my intimate friends detest me; those I love have
turned against me. I am nothing but skin and bones.

21. The Powers that Be
Romans 13:11 (KJV), “Let every soul be subject unto the higher
powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are
ordained of God.”

22. Pride comes before a fall
Proverbs 16:18, “Pride goeth before destruction, and an haughty spirit
before a fall.” (KJV)

23. Put words in one’s mouth from
2 Samuel 14:3, “And come to the king, and speak on this manner unto
him. So Joab put the words in her mouth.”

24. Rise and shine is
Isaiah 60:1, “Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the
LORD rises upon you.”

25. The Root of the Matter
Job 19:28 (KJV), “But ye should say, Why persecute we him, seeing the
Root of the matter is found in me?”

26. Scapegoat
Old Testament Law (Leviticus 16:9-10 specifically) where a goat is
chosen by lot to be sent into the desert to make atonement for sin.

27. See eye to eye
Isaiah 52:8 (KJV), “Thy watchmen shall lift up the voice; with the voice
together shall they sing: for they shall see eye to eye, when the LORD
shall bring again Zion.”

28. Sign of the times
Matthew 16:3 (KJV), “And in the morning, It will be foul weather
today: for the sky is red and lowering. O ye hypocrites, ye can discern
the face of the sky; but can ye not discern the signs of the times?”

29. Straight and Narrow
Matthew 7:14, “But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to
life, and only a few find it.”

30. Twinkling of an Eye
1 Corinthians 15:52, “In a moment, in the twinkling of an eye, at the
last trump: for the trumpet shall sound, and the dead shall be raised
incorruptible, and we shall be changed.”

31. There’s nothing new under the sun
The book of Ecclesiastes. Ecclesiastes 1:9 (KJV) says, “The thing that
hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that
which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun.”

32. Wash your hands of the matter
Matthew 27:24 (KJV), “When Pilate saw that he could prevail nothing,
but that rather a tumult was made, he took water, and washed his
hands before the multitude, saying, I am innocent of the blood of this
just person: see ye to it.”

33. Weighed in the balance
Job 31:6, “Let me be weighed in an even balance that God may know
mine integrity.”

34. Wit’s End
Psalm 107:27 (KJV), “They reel to and fro, and stagger like a drunken
man, and are at their wits’ end.” And the Psalm does not refer to the
Whit’s End with the Imagination Station.

35. Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing
Matthew 7:15 (KJV), “Beware of false prophets, which come to you in
sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves.”

36. Writings on the Wall
Daniel 5. “The writing is on the wall” is now a popular idiom for
“something bad is about to happen”.

Homily for 14th Sunday in Ordinary Time, Cycle A

posted Jul 11, 2017, 2:39 PM by Mary Tocimak

          Earlier this week, we celebrated Independence Day, the birth of our nation and our independence from England.  Isn’t being independent one of our ideals as citizens? Aren’t we taught at an early age to grow up and to deal with things on our own? To pull up our bootstraps and take care of things? Aren’t some of our heroes guys like John Wayne, the Marlboro man, the Lone Ranger, Amelia Earhart, people that did things on their own?  I think you get my point.  To me, that is why today’s Gospel can be difficult for us adults.  Children still are dependent on their parents and teachers, etc, to help them to grow and develop.  However, once we get married, we pride ourselves on making it on our own; to fulfill the American dream.

            Yet, in today’s Gospel, Jesus tells us to take his yoke upon ourselves.  What does he mean by this well known phrase?  Well a yoke is a large wooden beam with holes cut out so that the beam can be attached to farm animals to allow the master or farmer to control their direction.  The yoke prevents either animal from wandering off on their own.  Because of the yoke, they are forced to work together for a common goal, the work of the farmer. 

            So who is the farmer?  It is God the Father and by being attached to Jesus in the yoke, we work together with Jesus to do the will of the Father.  We can’t wander off on our own and to get into trouble or be too independent.  Like I mentioned earlier, we Americans appreciate our independence and being dependent on somebody else, like when we were children can be viewed as a weakness.  However, Jesus tells us that we need to be like children in our relationship with him; to be dependent on him for direction and guidance.  I know that n my own life that when I tried to do things on my own, that is when I got into the most trouble.  When my pride was raging in full force, I was too blind to see the error of my thinking and this is what led me into my sins of drinking, carousing, and self-centered-ness. 

            So what are some of the burdens that we have in our lives that we can turn over to Jesus?  What about all the things we worry about?  The weather, our health, the health of our loved ones, our finances, whether relatives return to church, and so many others.  Our worrying shows that we are concerned, yet does worrying solve any of our problems?  No.  Working with and trusting Jesus can help ease the burden.   For example, if we are worried about health issues, have we been doing everything the doctor has told us to do? Have we invited someone that has been away from the church to attend one of the lunches here at the parish?  Have we called our loved ones that may be lonely or ill and told them that we are concerned about them?  These may not eliminate or solve all the problems we face, however, they do give us reassurance that Jesus and others are here to help us.  All we need to do is swallow our pride and ask for help. 

            This week, examine your heart to see what is burdening you in your life and turn this over to Jesus.  He is here to help us if we just ask.  As he tells us, his yoke is easy and his burden is light, if we are willing to accept his help.


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